Would you ever wonder whether a guy chatting you up is being flirty…or just friendly?
Occasionally it’s tough to tell. He could only be complimenting you because he has no qualms about potential rejection and ’s extroverted. Or he saying his opinion without a lot of idea, or could simply be reporting an observation. To be honest, you kind of wish he was flirting with you because he’s a non-creepy and real smile, and, quite honestly, you haven’t kissed, let alone had sex with, anyone since…ever. You don’t understand how to begin, although you kind of need to be close. Especially because you can’t read social cues.
I’ve been in your shoes. In fact, the skill of the latest social interaction and I still fight. I usually use these rules of thumb when identifying whether a person in the male specimen has the ulterior motive of seduction, or if he’s only making small talk.
There’s a reason why this one’s at the very top of the list. Why? It doesn’t seem really apparent at first (at least it didn’t to me), but if your man looks at you for most of the dialogue, he is interested in everything you say and the way you respond to what he says. This wasn’t obvious in my experience at first because I believed when speaking to each other, that ordinary folks looked at each other. Nevertheless, I found that when friends are speaking to each other, they don’t constantly stare into each other’s eyes. Eyes show all, so he’s attempting to estimate your reaction to whatever he’s discussing because he really wants to know how you feel, or inquiring about if he’s continuously looking into your eyes.
Additionally, if he’s looking at you always, he believes you’re attractive. Guys do not spend their time keeping eye contact with someone they don’t find appealing.
Should a man and you chance to be speaking very close, it’s not because he desires to smell your breath. Well, I’m certain he would value a minty, fresh scent, since that could support him to kiss you. But anyway, if he’s speaking close to you, say, less than a foot from the mouth area, it’s nearly painfully clear that he’s flirting with you. His proximity to you indicates that he’s comfortable along with you and he really, really wants to kiss you. He needs to preview the air between you before you guys start (hypothetically) participating in a sexual relationship.
When you’re taking at least four grocery bags “Do you need help taking your bags?” he inquires. If you’re completely struggling with those bags he’s not necessarily flirting with you. However, should you pretty much have the bag- carrying covered if you will need help and he still asks, then he’s undoubtedly flirting with you. Does helping you increase the probability of interaction on you, but, in his mind, additionally, it increases the probability of you believing of you and him maybe starting a dialog should you run into him again, better.
When a man asks you what leading you’re in or what year you’re in, it doesn’t **always** mean that he’s flirting. It depends on the context. If he approaches you because he needs to gain more signatures to be student president or to advertise for his club’s occasion , then he ’s not flirting along with you. But if you are ostensibly approached by him out of his own volition and then begins to ask questions, that’s when it is possible to begin to imagine that you’ve caught his attention. If he asks you more personal questions, for example where you’re from or what your interests are, I’d give it about a ninety-nine percent chance that he’s flirting with you. As well as that, he inquires you other questions and in the event the conversation dwindles, that means he’s inquisitive about you and he needs to keep the dialogue going. Inquiring at the end of your dialog for your own amount solidifies that he’s hitting for you, particularly when he could achieve information .
5) Facial expression
This one is tough for many of us uncomfortable individuals. Alas, most people seldom pay attention to these signals because we focus most of our attention on what we’re saying and doing, not what others are saying and doing. Provided that a man gains (or laughs) at least three times in your dialog, he’s flirting with you. That’s a great index at the same time, if he looks at you at any point while he laughs or smiles.
In my opinion, these are rather significant, but although there are probably more rules of thumb. Best of luck identifying societal signals of the male specimen!